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Aug 23, 2014

How The Web Is Transforming Adoption

When Eric James and his partner, Zerxes Spencer, decided to adopt last year, they signed on with Adoptions Together, a reputable agency close to their home in Maryland. They attended the agency’s seminars to learn about the process, met other “waiting parents” and formed personal bonds with the staff. But there was just one problem.

“When we entered the pool, we were looking http://www.cheapcanadagoose.com at generally a two to three year wait,” says James. “And about six months in they reached out to let us know the wait actually would be probably much longer than that.”

In fact, a new study that’s among the first of its kind finds that the Internet is transforming adoption by opening up the way would be parents and canada goose outlet germany birth mothers find each other. Some welcome the shift, although the report also suggests it raises ethical concerns.

James’ predicament shows how even people who don’t intend to can find themselves using the Internet for adoption. To speed up their search, his agency advised him and Spencer to get canada goose outlet store toronto online.

The two men recently created their own website, featuring photos with friends and family, a “Letter to the Birth Parent,” and even bios of their two French poodle mixes. There’s an email address, a Facebook page and even a toll free phone number.

canada goose store “Essentially, we’re just putting together this marketing campaign to sell ourselves to a birth parent,” James says. It’s an idea that made him uncomfortable at first, but something he’s come to accept as a new reality. canada goose store

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“Pregnant mothers have the ability through searching functions on various websites to customize the search,” says Shawn Kane, executive director of American Adoptions, a fully licensed agency that canada canada goose outlet goose outlet in uk also uses the Internet to reach out to pregnant women across the country.

“For some women it’s very important to have a family that is not around them,” Kane says. “She doesn’t want to have that chance of running into the child or the family later down the road. So it allows her to customize her search by location, by religion, by race, whatever she’s looking for.”

What about all the counseling agencies provide? Many consider it crucial to help a pregnant woman in crisis decide whether or not to give up her child. Yes, Kane says, some canada goose shop uk need that face to canada goose outlet locations in toronto face meeting.

buy canada goose jacket cheap “But there’s just as many people wanting to get to know their options over the phone,” he says, “because maybe they work odd jobs, they don’t have the ability to come into an office or transportation is hard.” buy canada goose jacket cheap

canada goose coats While that may be fine for some, a new report by the Evan B. Donaldson Adoption Institute is among the first to examine the wide ranging impact of the Internet on adoption. Among its findings: canada goose coats

canadian goose jacket A growing “commodification” of adoption, with some internet providers aggressively marketing themselves to pregnant women. An end of the era of “closed adoption,” as more adoptees find their birth parents through social media. A broader market of prospective parents that can expedite placement, notably for foster and special needs children. canadian goose jacket

“Anybody can hang up a shingle on the Internet, you just need to know how to build a website,” says Adam Pertman, the group’s executive director.

canada goose uk shop He says a canada goose premium outlet number of online adoption facilitators have no legal license and no state oversight. Yet like a Wal Mart crowding out mom and pops many have huge advertising budgets that place them at the top of an online search. And their ads make promises no traditional adoption agency can. canada goose uk shop

Canada Goose Jackets ” ‘Adopt your healthy baby in six to nine months, on average,’ ” says Pertman, citing a common claim. “Wow. I gotta canada goose outlet houston ask, what are they doing that they can promise babies in six to nine months?” Canada Goose Jackets

Kane says it’s simply the power of a national presence. But Pertman’s report suggests some Internet providers are reaching out aggressively to pregnant women, pushing the idea of adoption over other options, such as parenting. Traditional agencies echo the complaint.

“You’ll often notice when you do a search [online], the first thing that jumps up is, ‘We can pay for your college.’ ‘We can get you an apartment with a swimming pool,’ ” says Janice Goldwater, executive director of Adoptions Together, the brick and mortar agency in Maryland that’s lost business to canada goose outlet uk Internet providers. “That’s a red flag, in my opinion, when somebody is being induced by things.”

Canada Goose Parka Some states allow such payments. But not Maryland, which puts Goldwater’s clients at a competitive disadvantage. And, she says, while some online providers are perfectly ethical, her agency has encountered others that are not. Canada Goose Parka

canada goose “We do have a number of adoptive parents who have told us of canada goose outlet location horror stories where they’ve spent thousands of dollars connecting with people on the Internet that have not yielded a successful adoption,” she says. canada goose

Goldwater’s advice: If you do use an online adoption provider, make sure it’s licensed so any match it makes will be legally sound.

canada goose black friday sale Meantime, her client, James, is expanding his online search. Next up is a video on his website and ads on Google, aimed at catching the eye of just the right woman canada goose black friday sale.

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